“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” ~Anna Quindlen.The strive for perfection comes from a deep sense of insecurity, not being enough to be accepted by others. When somebody is not accepting of themselves as they are, they believe that others will not be accepting of them either.
Perfectionists believe that if they can make everything about them seem perfect they will finally feel the inner acceptance that they long for. They are terrified of making mistakes. Making mistakes means that when others judge them they see them as flawed.
The drive for perfection is detrimental to living and enjoying life. It puts unnecessary pressure on people to be what they are not. They are not really living. The strive for perfection holds people back. The strive for perfection hinders people from seeing the beautiful journey that is unfolding before their eyes and the real potential for growth there is in front of them.
The fact is that perfectionism is not attainable. There is no perfect body, no perfect life, no perfect job, no perfect place to live in. It is a great relief when you let go of the unattainable goal of perfection, life becomes easier and more fun. You begin to look at mistakes in a new way, you see them as feedback that helps you learn and grow. You can now begin to show the true you to the world and take pride in the true you. What a relief when you stop trying to conceal who you really are.
Of course, in the beginning, it can be scary to face the world without your mask. Soon, you realise that you are living your life for yourself and not for the judgement of others. You no longer want to fit yourself into the expectations of others. You begin to realise why ever did you think that the opinion of others was so important to you.
The quest for perfection holds you back from being true to yourself and living true to your passion. There is uncertainty when following your passion but that is exciting, you know that the path isn’t smooth but exhilarating. You are free to experience life-changing personal growth experiences.
So, remember that the imperfect and vulnerable you are perfect enough. The imperfect you are fun-loving, carefree and the end of your days.